Healthy Trend or Have We All Completely Lost Our Mind
The FYI Network has rolled out a really interesting show concept. Getting married vat first sight to a total stranger which includes a wedding ceremony complete with a family and friend filled reception and honeymoon. Let's face it we are living in a world where we have instant access to everything and now love and marriage have a place on this super highway. I originally thought that this show idea was completely nuts. I mean wow, married and living with a complete stranger. However, as I continue to watch the episodes what I'm finding is that the people that signed up for this social experiment are pretty serious about wanting a committed relationship that obviously includes marriage and family. It's the getting to know one another that's the kicker. After all chemistry cannot be manufactured however I'm finding that the couples seem to be extremely invested. They still have there insecurities and are working on communication. At least they are willing to stick it out and really work on being in a committed relationship.
IS THIS A HEALTHY TREND OR IS THIS A DISASTER THAT WILL HAVE EPIC CONSEQUENCES IF IT CATCHES ON?
This may be healthy.. If we sit back and think about it! Us as humans get in relationships thinking we know a person and months/years later KABOOM they are a new person which means we never really knew the person we are loving! This is different but not so different... Yes they are strangers , yes they just met but also two people in a relationship for four years are also strangers! Even though they have been together they still do not totally know each other! You learn something new about a person everyday ; which is good because it keeps the excitement in a relationship! If we knew everything about a person we would get bored and not want to know them because we know everything! So I think it's healthy as long as the newlyweds put God first, and attempt to climbed that mountain of "Getting to know each other" and also walk that valley of "MARRIAGE" they will be fine! We are all strangers on this EARTH it's about the effort we put in and the fight we put up!
ReplyDeleteThis could have it's pros and cons. I must say I watched the show and I absolutely thought that these people were insane. Insane because. You can be with a person 20 years and oneday they get up and do something totally to the left; and you thought you knew them. I believe in love at first sight, not marriage at first sight; you must spend time together and apart and build trust, a relationship is built on trust. If you have two strangers who already have trust issues and have not clue about the other person, their family, friend, habits and so forth, the trust level can elevate to fear. And when a person has fear of not know who they are with and what they may truly get, it becomes and act, not letting your gaurd down, not allowing the other person to see who you really are. So this "marriage at first sight can be a disater. "Love takes time." Love isn't like insant grits or oatmeal, we change and we grow. And marriage is an investment not an experiment. So saying all of that. Marriage is a truthfull committment, trust, patience, and willingness to love everything about that person. Marriage is not a joke. "Death do you part." And most of loyalty, life long committment. Christina Stone
ReplyDeleteDefinitely, not a good idea. The fact of the matter is you are entering a "life long" commitement with someone you do no know at all. It is shear mockery of the institution of marriage, the very act of marrying someone at first site is indicative of not taking it seriously. Could the marriage survive or make the long haul? Possibly, however the chances of it would be equivalent to hitting the lottery. Think about it, you are making preparations to share you life "intimately" with a complete stranger. Let's look pass the obvious potential obstacles they will encounter, such as personal annoying habbits, and look at some more serious potential risks. Has he/she killed anyone? Do he/she have other childrens? Do he/she suffer from mental afflictions or infirmaties, such as child molestation or rape, both of which I'm sure if you would want to know if you are going to mary someone. Think about,would you give a person you just meet the keys to our car, or access to our bank account? Why would you be will to share your life, which is the most valuable thing you will ever own, with a stranger who has not earned it or you have not even taken the time observe wether or not that person posses the credentials to have it. My point is, if the risk is not worth the possible reward, then why take such a huge gamble. Take the time to get to know someone before leaping in such a serious commitment.
ReplyDeleteSo I purposely waited until after the final show to respond to this post, because I wanted to see what the end results would be. I've watched the entire experiment from beginning to end, and I must admit I thought that this was the craziest thing ever when the show first aired. However after giving it some thought, it really wasn't that different of an idea. People in other cultures have been involved in pre-arranged marriages for years and research has shown that they can be successful. With two out of three of the couples deciding to stay together after the experiment, I would say maybe they’re on to something with this. I honestly believe that it was the presence of the commitment of marriage that kept these couples going. Had they not been married, they themselves said that they probably would not have made it through. I think it says a lot about the institution of marriage, and it showed me that even though times have changed drastically there are still some people out there who do respect what it means to make that type of commitment.
ReplyDeleteI don’t think knowing someone for 400 years before you get married really makes a difference. You can never know everything about anyone since life brings change. I know a couple who only knew each other 2 weeks before they tied the knot and they’ve been together for over 40 years (I’m not saying it was always easy) and another couple who knew each other over 2 years and their marriage only lasted a year. I think it really depends upon the people involved, what they want, and their level of commitment to making it happen. If nothing else the show definitely provided good food for thought.
Definitely, not a good idea. The fact of the matter is you are entering a "life long" commitement with someone you do no know at all. It is shear mockery of the institution of marriage, the very act of marrying someone at first site is indicative of not taking it seriously. Could the marriage survive or make the long haul? Possibly, however the chances of it would be equivalent to hitting the lottery. Think about it, you are making preparations to share you life "intimately" with a complete stranger. Let's look pass the obvious potential obstacles they will encounter, such as personal annoying habbits, and look at some more serious potential risks. Has he/she killed anyone? Do he/she have other childrens? Do he/she suffer from mental afflictions or infirmaties, such as child molestation or rape, both of which I'm sure if you would want to know if you are going to mary someone. Think about,would you give a person you just meet the keys to our car, or access to our bank account? Why would you be will to share your life, which is the most valuable thing you will ever own, with a stranger who has not earned it or you have not even taken the time observe wether or not that person posses the credentials to have it. My point is, if the risk is not worth the possible reward, then why take such a huge gamble. Take the time to get to know someone before leaping in such a serious commitment.
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