Should the NFL Mind Their Business or Are They Justified?
It's been the talk of sports news and national news today. Ray Rice will have to endure being fired by the Ravens football club and the NFL has made it seemly impossible that he be able to be picked up by another team. The unfortunate incident has gone viral and it's pretty gruesome. His wife however is just as sick as her abusive husband. She married the guy a month after the incident which makes me further believe that this has happened before and that they have had an abusive and volatile relationship for a while now. She wanted this guy at all costs and she got him and everything that comes with it. They both need counseling and hopefully will not bring anymore children into this world until they figure out their issues. I do not have ANY sympathy for this woman however. The bottom line is if you stay in it, then it must be something about getting knocked out cold that you like. It's that simple.
QUESTION: IS IT HARDER TO LEAVE A RELATIONSHIP WITH A PERSON WHO IS RICH AND FAMOUS, BUT HAD SOME ANGER AND VIOLENT TENDENCIES?
Abuse is a cycle one that is learn from the giver and the reciever. She probably seen her mother receive this type of abuse and think that it is ok. He see his father or uncle do this to women and think that it is ok. Low self esteem and not loving yourself on both party's is one thing. And saying that both need help.
ReplyDeleteAnd I must say this: If he made the choice to beat her, then he knew that wasn't proper. You do the crime you do the time. How can you be a role model and young children are looking up to you and if he is allowed to play then, other young children who want to become players will think this is acceptable. So yes I think he should be forced to counseling, suspended, forgiven and less pay. There you have it. Christina has spoken.
ReplyDeleteAbuse is a fatal virus that affects everyone it comes in contact with. Things happen, we lose control. That's not an excuse but a true explanation. Believe it or not, there is still hope for their relationship. Yes, I said it, deal with it! First in foremost REMOVE YOURSELF FROM HARMS WAY! A separation is definitely in order (this will provide you with some clarity by distancing the emotional ties that distort your judgment). If in fact the offender want to change and is willing to do whatever that is required to make those changes, then the relationship has a chance. Both parties need to seek professional help. Professional help will shed some light on normality, which would allow you to see the damage this affliction is and has caused in your life. Spend time with friends and family who cares about you. Be observant and patient, change happens overtime and you have to be will to maintain the separation until obvious change occurs. Give yourself a minimum time frame that you need to remain separate (that includes no intimate contact) and set ground rounds for the separation. As women, we worry "what if he became involved with someone else?" Remember what I said earlier? "he must be willing to do whatever it takes" If that's the case, then he has made it plain, that he is not will to do whatever it takes, and you need to accept that and move on with your life. Hell, you may discover this is not the person you want to be with. I feel empathy for both of them, because they are both victims by some form or fashion. I hope they get the help they need, and are able to live happy healthy lives, with or without each other.
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