Is Juan Pablo the worst Bachelor for not saying he loved Nikki on the finale of "The Bachelor"?
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Is this guy being treated unfairly for telling his truth about his feelings for Nikki?
OK, now I'm a little bit more of a realist. I understand that two very good looking people can come together on a reality TV show for love because we've seen this before. This guy (Juan) has a lot going for him and I feel he is a pretty honest guy, mainly honest with himself first. The focus of "The Bachelor" is that these young woman who are selected get the opportunity to jockey for the attention of this one guy for the ultimate love connection. But what happens when an instant love connection is not made by both parties? It seems that Nikki was feeling more in love with Juan at the finale and wanted to hear those three words but did not. This sent the media and the social media outlets ablaze with negative banter towards Juan. It was as if he led her on just because he felt like he had not arrived at the place of true love with her. People fall in love at different times and I think that we may be jumping the gun if we believe that we all get there at the same time or that we should pretend that we are there in order to save another persons feeling.
Fast forward: They are not on the reality TV show "Couples Therapy"
QUESTION: IS IT BEST TO TELL SOMEONE THAT YOU BELIEVE YOU CAN LOVE LATER THAT YOU LOVE THEM NOW JUST TO MAKE THAT PERSON HAPPY AND KEEP THE PEACE?
Love... "Loook what you've done to me." To be able to look somene in their eyes and say those small but yet powerful words and not meant it, only to keep the peace, would be a mean thing to do. Honesty is and will always be the best way to approach this subject. I'd rather hear someone say "I'm not saying that I do not care or have intense feelings for you as you may have for me at the moment, but I would like to continue seeing you and see where this may lead." Than to lie and say you love me. Sounds like Juan is being cautious, who knows he may already have feelings and is in love with her, but is reluctant to say or display that final faze. Maybe she has shown his some characteristics of a past love. Who knows. But faking it could lead to a very hurtful situation. And love doesn hurt. Sincerely C. Stone
ReplyDeleteHurt Me Real Good! That's what I say. This is a classic example of what men always complain about with women,"we are confused". Not that I agree of course. Nevertheless, what do we really want? The truth, even when it hurts, a lie to prevent and elude the inevitable, or a mute. You choose! I say, tell me the truth, let me process the pain and I will deal. At least my life would not be a lie. I strongly believe it's to your benefit to be served with the truth, even if it hurts. That's what I call good pain. It allows you to process, become more conditioned and eventually better prepared for the possible outcome.
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