OK, so I decided to picture the most famous fictional side chicks of the day. "Scandal" is a very exciting television show and one of the things that is a common theme that his(Fitz-the fictional President of the United States) side woman ,Olivia Pope continues to be dissatisfied with herself and her relationship with Fitzgerald. In their case the relationship has gone on for some time and she has to work with him and see his wife on a daily basis. She is in need of love and attention but can never seem to get the fullness of this blooming flower from the man she is cheating with. I wonder why. The reason is simple.
YOU ARE A SIDE CHICK
PLAY YOUR POSITION
MANAGE YOUR EMOTIONS
MAKE YOUR DEMANDS(FOR STUFF ONLY,HIS TIME AND AFFECTION ARE BEING RATIONED TO YOU)
Of course all of the married woman and ladies who are in dedicated relationships are going to hate me for doing this but this is the way it is in SOME cases.
Side Chick Rules:
Understand that you are not a main priority - He will be able to see you when it's convenient for him, not you. As soon as you start making demands on his time, your time will be up very soon.
Demand SOMETHING for your time and trouble(money,cars,real estate,shopping trips,etc.) - This will make you feel more valued. His heart and soul belong to someone else, so be it.
Discretion is the key - You are there on a temporary basis so be respectful of his permanent situation(wife,kids, etc.) Don't go to social media and embarrass the guy with the affair. No matter what he tell you his wife don't deserve that and his children(if he has any) don't deserve it either. After all, you were both playing on the cheaters field so you are just as dirty as he is. You are not a victim.
No pressure - If the guy wanted to leave his wife and family, then he will just do it. If he doesn't its because he does not want to and something more is keeping him there.
FLIP THE SCRIPT
Some men are actually looking for that woman to be in a committed relationship with and will attempt to make the side chick a wife. Don't get happy ladies this does not happen very often, so don't hold your breath. Some woman go after married men for the simple reason that they don't want those men around all of the time and just want the goodies and the stuff that they get for being discreet. All I have to say is that relationships change over time and for those that choose to get involved in someone else's relationship in order to create one for themselves may not get out of it what they think. then again their are plenty of example in the entertainment industry that prove otherwise. NEVER SAY NEVER!
Alicia Keys and Swizz Beats
Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt
QUESTION: ARE THERE RULES TO BEING A SIDE CHICK OR IS THE WHOLE THING RIDICULOUS?
I don’t think there is anyone who don't knows that Mayweather’s entourage is his accessible "putua" .. I'm over it, he knows it, they knows it, and everyone is ok with it. I say , no harm no foul.
ReplyDeleteAs for the side chicks, I could not have said it better myself. "Side chick rules" are dead on. Have you heard of "the rule". It means there is a general outcome to situations that most always happen. The rules are..... if you play the lottery , the odds are you will never hit for the millions........ if you are disorganized, then you most likely never obtain success...... if you plan to work an ordinary job until you retire, then you will never reach extraordinary heights in life.. and......... IF YOU ARE THE SIDE CHICK, THEN HE’LL NEVER BE YOURS..... It is as simple as that. Of course there are exceptions to every rule. We call them “the x factor", "a phenomenon" which means it rarely happens.
Don't be delusional... there are rules to everything, and definitely to being a side chick... take note "side chick ladies" apply the rules..... Believe it or not they are actually for your own benefit.
Yes there are rules and strict rules to being a side chick. I personally would never sign up to be one, and if I ever realize that I was one oh that's the end of the what I thought was beginning. Side chick know when they are a side chick, even if they aren't told, they know not to call when they leave the hotel, not to come to the house, can't meet his friends, or family can't ask him where he's been. So the rules are in place even if he hasn't verbalize them, his actions will tell you that you are a side chick. And the chances of you being upgraded. Nope, downgraded to the curve. My opinion. I'm just saying....
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